Have I got your attention now? This is what I mean by this statement.  We are all incredibly intelligent beings.  Our developed mind craves newness and discovery.  We get bored with doing the same thing all the time.  We need stimulation and energy that is new.  This is why we cheat on each other, why we have such a large divorce rate and why depression is epidemic in our society.  We are bored with our mates, our jobs, our life.  Boredom and habit are the destroyers In intimacy This boredom of doing the same things, eating the same foods, using TV for stimulation, we make love the same way is all a cancer that eats at the aliveness of what could be.  The only way to keep a relationship alive is to let go of what you think it ought to be; give up the fantasies of what you wan the form to look like and focus on the Truth of today.  What is expanding in you?  What is expanding in your partner?  Love and Consciousness  are always expanding as this is their nature.  Current relationships are usually seeking the same juice that you had in the beginning honeymoon phase; or trying to reach a higher high.  Give that up if you want your relationship to grow and if you want to evolve as a man or woman.  Instead, seek the Truth of what is now.  There is a richness there that is greater than any high or fantasy that your ego believes it wants.  Share your expansion and consciousness with your partner.  Find what is new about you and your partner today that is different from yesterday.  That is the secret to the richest love there is.  Judith and I sometimes fail to remember this…and when we do is when we move towards contraction and unhappiness.  When we let go of the ‘ideal’ of what we think we want and accept the truth of what is, there is freedom and deeper love for self and each other.

Mooji on Relationships

And once you’ve completed it and if you want to live life with more…call me.  Change will happen.

Rate yourself on these:

1.  Self-confidence.

2.  Quality of friends.

3.  Quantity of friends.

4.  Financial security.

5.  Quantity of financial freedom.

6.  Loving where you live.

7.  Satisfaction with career/job.

8.  Quality of your love life.

9.  How well do you deal with conflict?

10. Knowing and living your purpose?

11. Recreation and leisure time?

12. Your weight?

13.  Your health?

14.  Spiritual inner life?

15.  Shared spiritual community?

16.  Your authentic expression of self in relationships?

17.  Intellectually challenged?  Learning new things?

18.  Are you expressing yourself in service to others?

19.  Your sex life and sensual pleasure.

20.  Nutrition and eating healthy and well.

We are all dying.  You will die.  As a close friend says, ‘we are all dying of a sexually transmitted terminal disease’. That’s true, yes?

At this moment I have several friends who are entering into their last phases of living and are approaching death.  One is now celebrating their life and connections.  He’s been told by doctors that he has only 3 weeks.  He’s surrounded by loving family and friends.   And here is the greatest part of this; he is feeling so much love as never before.  He is in such bliss and ecstasy at this point in his life.  He is dying as he lived.  With full passion and adventure.  He appreciates every moment of breath and life; and is ready to live or die.

Question for you… why wait?   How can you/I experience this type of passion and love while still in our bodies fullness?

In our American culture, we have so many issues with death.  We want to keep it a mystery.  We want to not discuss it or think about it.  We want to protect our children from it by not allowing them to see and experience grandma or grandpas last days.  We hide behind rituals that protect us from the end.  It is a downer for most.

How about a new vision.  A recent grandma and her family  on Maui were offered a different alternative.  Instead of dying alone in a hospital; she came home to her family.  Her children and grandchildren watched as Grandma lived her last days in a pain free style.  She talked to her kids and grandkids.  Love was exchanged.  Tears were exchanged.  Grandma passed in the presence of her whole family.  The EMT’s and police did not come, but she was taken care of by traditional people of Hawaii who prepared her body.  She was lovingly cared for a  nd family got to say and feel what what was true for them.  All said their goodbyes.  The family did not have cash for a casket, so loving people provided a cardboard casket.  The grandkids colored and wrote messages on the casket to their grandma.  They put flowers and fresh fruit in the casket.  Then all the family drove to the crematorium together and pushed the button to allow grandma to become ashes.

They celebrated her with a party.  Again love and story were exchanged.

Death is not a crisis. Death is natural and as a rite of passage, an initiation.  Let’s learn to celebrate and allow for the last magic to happen.

At death, at conscious death, there is always a last gift for those left behind.  Let’ all look at our feelings and beliefs around death.

Join me in holding a vision for such a leader; or even better a group of leaders who will guide our world to a more conscious place.

We usually send our ‘rep’ or our representative into the world ahead of us.  The Rep’s job is to assess the risk factors of becoming real and authentic.  We’ve learned through a lifetime of learning when it is safe to be authentic and in Truth vs when to put our Rep out there who is trying to impress, hide, get approval, love and most of all, keep us safe.  Playing it safe is ok, but is that what you want?

Sometimes, I will have a client fire their Rep for even a minute.  The Rep is the censoring aspect of the Self.  What if you took one minute with a friend and just said out-loud everything you thought in your mind.  No censoring.  Just let it flow. You may find some freedom, fun and a bit of fear when the voice is given permission to express what the mind is thinking.  If you don’t get slapped for some obscene comment, you may discover something about yourself.  Your Rep runs much of your life.  I suggest practicing this with a trusted friend or lover to start.  Fire your Rep and live bigger.

Thanks Jim Mitchell for who you are and showing so many of us about firing our Rep.

I like this definition…’ Authentic self-expression that creates value. ‘

Most of us have developed a ‘representative or rep’ of who we are. This ‘rep’ is the one we send out to the world, in order to feel whether it is safe to express true selves.  The ‘rep’ does his or her job to protect our true selves who is conditioned to fit in to get love, acceptance and not to be rejected. This rep is not who we really are. Who would we be if our rep was ‘fired’ and that our true self became vulnerable and expressed ourselves?  How would you be with your intimate?  How would you be with your friends?  How would you be in your career?

Here is an exercise that I do with clients.  Remove your censoring mechanism.  For 5 minutes, say whatever your mind says.  Don’t censor yourself in any way.  Now to really increase the effects of the exercise, do it with a friend or an intimate.  Simply say what your is on your mind no matter what is thinks.

So, getting back to leadership….’self expression that creates value’.  What will you do today that creates value for yourself and others?  Let it fly and and watch what happens.

Everyone seemed to hold a really strong and passionate opinion stemming, in my opinion, from a deep frustration and mistrust of authority and the ‘system’ (whatever that is)  The commonality was in the passion and not in the ideas of ‘who caused this’ or agreed solutions.

While talking to a radical poet and eloquent man, an older woman grabbed my coat sleeves and wanted to be heard. I patiently listened as she seemed almost desperate to relay her thoughts to me about the ‘problem’ and her ‘solutions’. She was a Christian woman who thought the problems were male based and that the solution was a return to Jesus and the 10 commandments.  Any attempt on my part to ask her more details or to even understand her on some point she was passionately making was met with and edge of anger.  She just wanted to talk without interruption and if I offered a rebuttal of some sort, she got more angry.  I remembered one important thing at that moment…that when there is angry, there is less listening.  I’ve noticed this about myself in the past. That knowing has value for me.

The big realization of the day came from this woman first, and then was confirmed by others; and was later confirmed even more when I have remembered my interactions with people over the last many decades.  THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERSONAL AGENDA.

What I mean by that is that there is an energetic field where we are all the time and it is similar to a hologram. In this energetic field lies at least four major events may be happening.  I’m not sure ‘events’ is the right word, maybe ‘influences’ is better.  There is the ‘Personal’; that reaction of thoughts, feelings, or actions that are stemming from our own being.  There is the ‘Interpersonal’; that reaction that is from having another in our field who we are trying to impress, be like, be like by, afraid of, want something from, etc.  There is the ‘Cultural’; that influence that may come from our socioeconomic background, our religion, our birth origins, our birth place, our kin relationships, etc.  And finally, there is the ‘Institutional’ or how we are influenced by the larger field…our country, our laws, the corporations and more that influence us. To complicate this even more, there is a past and present tense to each field.  Again, like the hologram, any field holds a past and present influence.  I’ll explain more in a minute.

This first woman for instance, was thinking she was speaking passionately from her ‘Personal’ aspect of the field; of a return to Jesus and the 10 commandments; and that the issues of our state was caused by males.  Hmmm.  How many fields were operating or influenced her both past and present?  I don’t know for sure but I suspect she had more than the ‘Personal’ field operating.  I would posit that she had the ‘Interpersonal’ field influencing her; perhaps a history of being oppressed by males; and maybe a wanting to be heard by men (there was the poet standing next to me).  There was probably a ‘Cultural’ field in operation.  Speaking of Jesus and the 10 Commandments told me that some Church belief is part of her values.  And finally, she was in reaction to the ‘Institutional’, in her mind, the corrupt governments and male dominated banking systems that are ruining our values and economies.

When I look back at my own life I can see how many ‘fields’ have influence on me from both past and present.  Having been born male, my own DNA, white, Christian, higher institutions of education, Irish and a bit English ancestry, American, live in Hawaii, low to middle class and about a thousand other influences impact my view on just about everything.  Sometime my righteous anger comes not just from the personal or interpersonal abuse may have encountered, but may have its roots in some Irish DNA, a people who have been oppressed and invaded by many countries and England for centuries.

Wait, this may get better.

I’m posting that if one field changes, it has opportunity to change all the fields…past, present and future.  Again, like our hologram.  When I do personal work with another individual (which becomes interpersonal just by the fact that I am in the room or on skype or the phone with them) they are impacting and impacted by the other fields.  When someone does a bit of healing, it may be true that they are healing others, changing culture and influencing institutions.  The reverse may be true too.  When someone harms self or another, it influences all the fields.  When a bank CEO gets greedy and steals monies from the cookie jar who pays for it?  Us, in our personal field.  When I do a bit of healing from my past, who benefits besides me?  I do, but also my partner Judith, my daughter perhaps, my groups that I influence, my culture and any institution that I buy in to.

Having awareness of these fields that are operating helps me to be more conscious, patient and the man I want to be.

So, now we are back at the beginning…there is no such thing as a personal agenda.  Have I given you something to think about?

There is a natural intelligence that we are all born with.  This intelligence can go by different names; essence, natural state, our original face, our innate gifts, etc.  I suspect that what many find as most important in their education has little to do with anything they learned in formal school, but was a natural unfolding of these original essential qualities.  Indeed, a parents main responsibility is to know their child’s essence and nurture that by offering opportunities for them to evolve and mature.

What if schools were to take on the same mandate; to nurture the child’s innate gifts and talents of their essential bodies.  Schools would be safe sanctuaries creating opportunities for what is most important for students to learn.  Classes in emotional intelligence; compassionate relating; fostering intuition; creativity; intimacy training; how to see all beings as their relatives; listening to inner spiritual guidance; and how to care for each other.  Teachers would have a high level of awareness of not just a curriculum, but innately know from their own alternative advanced education of how to nurture essential qualities of being human.  Schools would be playgrounds of learning on not just how individuals thrive and survive; but on the thriving and surviving of us all.  All would contribute to the happiness of all.

Educators would not only be teachers who have a ‘body’ of knowledge to pass on, but would be adept at assisting students to find their own inner wisdom, by helping students learn in their own natural way.

Now, stay with me a bit further.  What are the ingredients of natural Intelligence?  It’s in give-away, not accumulating or greed; it’s in service; it’s in Truth seeking, it’s in not buying the stories of who we think we are from the small self, but by living in the Big Self.  It’s by taking courageous stands for the perpetuation of Intelligence and ignoring ignorance.

The other intelligence has served us long enough and may indeed be the cause of much of the dysfunction in our world from global warming and corporate greed.  The Wall St. and other global protests may be the birth pangs of a newer Intelligence waiting to be recognized.  It’s always been there, usually in the eyes of visionaries, Elders and prophets and now it is becoming a tsunami that will awaken the sleeping.

You know, there are Intelligence schools you can go attend.  You may not earn a degree that will get you a job that will pay for your home, that will send your kids to the best schools, etc.  There is nothing wrong with this intelligence.  Brilliant and intelligent people are using good science and technology to create a better planet.  And, there is little real  security in pursuing that kind of intelligence.  You will certainly die along with that intelligence.  The Intelligence schools I am aware of will impart Wisdom through listening to nature; through the felt-sense that is in the body.  It comes from holding a new born baby; or with love, sitting with another who is suffering.  The professors of that school are mostly within your own soul; or in your dreams; or in the eyes of the beggar at your street corner.  It comes from someone who loves you enough to challenge your illusions and stories of yourself and others.  Intelligence is there when a man or woman that I am working with wakes up to their own wisdom and Truth.

The Truth is that we are beings of extraordinary potential to alter the course of our planet through awakening our natural Intelligence and acting as warriors to what is right.  Those who carry that Intelligence are like tuning forks.  When their ‘Intelligent’ vibration is on, it will impact the tuning forks of those around them who will begin to naturally vibrate at that same frequency.

Now, let’s go outside and play in the dirt.